Divorce is a difficult time for the entire family – especially for children, who may feel insecure or blame themselves for the ordeal. The thought of spending less time with one parent and having two homes can be overwhelming.
As the National Institutes of Health explains, divorce has the potential to affect children adversely. However, if parents act responsibly and take the right approach, divorce may actually have positive effects on kids. They may become more independent and learn how to deal with major life changes in a mature fashion. In some cases, divorce allows kids to live in a healthier, conflict-free environment.
Parents who are facing divorce should consider these four tips to help their children cope with the transition:
- Reassure your children that they did not cause the divorce;
- Be honest and open;
- Explain clearly and concisely what the future holds;
- And try to maintain routines.
If you are going through a divorce in New York, contact a Staten Island family attorney from the Elliot Green Law Offices. Mr. Green can evaluate your case, answer your questions and protect your interests.
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Here are four tips to help reduce the impact of divorce on your children:
- Reassure your children that they did not cause the divorce.
Make sure your children do not blame themselves for the divorce. Sit your kids down and explain that the decision was made between you and their other parent, that both you and their other parent still love them the same way, and that both you and their other parent will continue to be involved in their lives.
- Be honest and open.
Open the channels of communication with your children. They should feel comfortable discussing their feelings about the divorce with you and their other parent. This will give you an idea of your children’s mental and emotional state, and will give you an opportunity to help them develop a mature, constructive perspective of the divorce.
- Explain clearly and concisely what the future holds.
Children feel more secure when they know how the divorce will – or, perhaps more important, will not – affect their futures. Explain the changes that will take place in the coming weeks, and answer their questions.
- Try to maintain routines.
Children thrive on routines. As Kids Health explains, children need stable routines for optimum emotional health. By keeping their routines consistent, you will make the effects of divorce less pronounced, which can help them make the transition.
If you are looking for a divorce lawyer in New York, or if you wish to speak to a Staten Island child custody lawyer, contact the Elliot Green Law Offices. Mr. Green can handle the legal aspects of your divorce so you can focus on your personal well-being. Call 718-260-8668 today to schedule a free initial consultation.