BROOKLYN, New York. How your child will process your divorce will depend largely on your child’s age. What an infant or very young child will need will differ from what a teen will need.
According to Parents, very young children, toddlers, and infants need consistency and routine most of all. The best thing you can do is reassure your child that his or her caregivers will be there for him no matter what and provide a regular routine, even as you and your former spouse split. Things like a regular bedtime, regular visitation, and play dates can create stability during this tough time.
Preschool age children may not understand why the divorce is taking place but they will know enough to understand that their family life is changing. Reading your children books about divorce, counseling, and talking openly and simply about the situation can help your child cope. However, many children will internalize the divorce at first and blame themselves. Having good support for your child beyond the immediate family is helpful.
Elementary school age children and middle schoolers may be coping with a range of emotions during the divorce. They may lash out at one parent or cling to another. They may retreat socially from friends and other loved ones. While it is normal for children this age to experience anger, sadness, and to struggle, with proper support, this period shouldn’t last long. Many children bounce back and end up stronger after their parents’ divorce, but proper support is again, essential. Teens may need to speak to a counselor or join a support group where they can express their more difficult emotions and better process how the divorce has shaped their own life journey.
Many parents wonder whether they should stay together for the kids. While it might seem easier to stay together and tough it out, if your marriage is over, staying together for the kids might be teaching your children the wrong lesson. Children are happiest when their parents are happy and stable. According to Today, if you and your partner are struggling with the decision of whether or not to split, you may want to speak to a marriage counselor. Some couples can resolve their differences or even live together amicably, while others may struggle with resentment and continual arguments if they stay together.
When making these tough decisions, it is important to understand yourself and your marriage and plan ahead. While divorce might be a loss for the children, the children may be happier long-term in two stable and happy households rather than one characterized by arguments and strife.
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