BROOKLYN, New York. According to the American Psychological Association, divorce can be traumatic for children. However, research has found that, after about 2 years, most children have adjusted well to the divorce. It is normal for children to experience worry about the future, and sadness about you split. Yet, how can you tell when your child’s normal worry or sadness is something more serious like depression or anxiety?
If you’re going through a divorce and have children, it might be wise to find a counselor for your child. A counselor can be a safe adult with whom your child can share his worries and concerns. While parents might encourage their children to share their sadness and worries, sometimes children are better able to open up to a neutral third party. A counselor can also watch your child for warning signs of depression or anxiety.
According to the New York Times, anxiety is a common condition that often goes undiagnosed in children and teens. Unlike some conditions, anxiety is often difficult to detect. Children who suffer from anxiety might be quiet, well-behaved, and even withdrawn.
When is worry or sadness something that should be taken seriously after divorce? If your child’s sadness interferes with his or her ability to engage in everyday activities, or if you notice your child not enjoying activities he or she previously enjoyed, this could be a sign of depression. Children who are depressed might withdraw from friends and family. Children with anxiety may avoid situations that make them feel overwhelmed. They might suffer panic attacks. If you believe your child might be suffering from anxiety or depression because of your divorce, it is important to seek help.
How you manage your divorce can also have an impact on your children. In general, parents should try to keep their children out of the decision-making as much as possible, unless children are old enough to share their preferences. Teens, for example, might want to let their parents know that they want to stay in the same high school, or they may want to live with one parent over another. As long as both parents aren’t putting pressure on the teen to make one decision or another, it is fine to ask him or her what she or he would like. A qualified divorce lawyer, like the attorneys at the Elliot Green Law Offices in Brooklyn, New York can help you navigate some of the more sensitive topics that might arise during a child custody decisions.
While divorce might be a tough decision, research has also shown that it can, in some cases, be beneficial for children. Children are happier living in two happy homes rather than living in one home with two parents who are in constant conflict. So, if you’re thinking of toughing it out for the kids, you might want to consider the impact ongoing conflict can have on your child. Anger and arguments create their own kind of trauma.
The Elliot Green Law Offices in Brooklyn, New York are child custody attorneys who understand that child custody matters can sometimes be complex and sensitive topics. Reach out to our firm today to learn more about your options and rights when it comes to developing a parenting plan that works for your family.
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